The other day I mentioned The Miracle Morning. I’ve done it 2 out of 4 mornings this week and I absolutely feel better on the days I did them than the days I didn’t. I mentioned I was skimming the rest of the book and I read about his views on suicide. I completely forgot about them when I made that post. The I got to his views on ADHD. Those reminded me of the other and I can’t not talk about this.
I don’t know when he wrote this book so I’m not trying to act like he wrote this yesterday. Although, I bought an ebook, so maybe a revision is in order.
This guy is a motivational speaker. He has had some very rough times. And I’m about to get real blunt. His views on suicide and ADHD are utter bullshit. I’m not sorry if that word offends you because in this case, there is no other word for it. Suicide is not selfish. Suicide is a desperate act for people who are in a tremendous amount of pain and who truly believe everyone in their lives will be better off without them. In my opinion it is selfish to judge others and feel superior to them because you didn’t make the same decision. It is also completely irresponsible to publish a book with those views..
He claims, even though he has been diagnosed with ADHD, he doesn’t necessarily believe it is real. Again, dude is a motivational speaker. He’s not a mental health expert. He’s not a doctor. He’s some guy who had a great idea and wrote a book. and his editor didn’t remove his irresponsible opinions.
I wouldn’t discuss this here under normal circumstances, but since I talked about his book I would be distraught if anyone thought I promoted those ideals. My heart broke thinking of people I care about who have been affected by suicide reading those words about their loved ones. Loved ones who aren’t here to defend themselves.
As someone with ADD, it’s real. It makes life immensely more difficult and it makes everyone around me frustrated. Example: Last night I wanted to make BBQ ribs in the oven. I had run out of aluminum foil and didn’t want to scrub the dish like I had to for my chicken at lunch. I went to the store specifically for aluminum foil. I brought the bag in and set it right next to the oven. I immediately made the ribs and put them in said oven. I went to wash dishes and realized as I scrubbed the chicken pan, I had forgotten to add the aluminum foil. No one is more frustrated by putting in the extra effort up front to make things a little easier and forgetting to make things a little easier than I am. Seriously. That bbq is not coming off. And that’s just one thing. That moment when I realized I didn’t put the aluminum foil in the dish is 75% of my life. I wish I was exaggerating.
There is also a spectrum. Some people have it worse than others. Some people can manage it with coping skills, which most of the time, I do. It is usually just the little things that get messed up thanks to auto pay and electronic calendars. However, add in my depression and sometimes it totally wrecks my life for a minute. I’m not trying to get sympathy. I’m just trying to explain. I can usually laugh it off because life isn’t that serious, but when a late bill can dramatically lower your credit score or cost you money in late fees, it hurts. Now add in people just thinking you’re lazy or irresponsible when you are already trying so hard, and it just sucks some times.
So I write things like this post to hopefully counteract the people who still think the things this guy (at least at one time) believed so thoroughly he published them in a book.
I still recommend the system, but maybe google it and see if you can find the system for free or borrow the book from a library and skipped to that part.